Chapter 16: Difficult Situations


While writing this book, we have hoped that through all the challenges of caregiving, you will be working with cooperative relatives; that your parents are not only grateful for your help but demonstrate their gratitude and do what they can to make your labors on their behalf easier; and that your siblings appreciate your efforts as well and pitch in cheerfully to help.

But we know that the world is not always so tidy and supportive. Probably no family works smoothly all the time, and many families are troubled by strife of various kinds.

Antagonisms Can Get Worse

If anything, old antagonisms are likely to get worse in the urgency, and sometimes emergency, of caregiving.

How do you prepare yourself for battles that may come? We offer advice in this chapter about how to deal with some specific situations that arise frequently. Here are some examples of situations we explore:

  • Advice on Some Common Parent-Child Conflicts
  • Your Father Won’t Surrender the Car Keys
  • Your Parents Refuse to Make a Will
  • Your Mother Is Suspicious of Strangers–And Even Caregivers
  • When Paranoia Points to Something More
  • Your Mother Is Unmanageable at Home but Refuses to Go to a Nursing Home
  • Coping in a Strained Relationship

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