Table of Contents

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Preface

Caring for our seniors has changed almost beyond recognition over the past generation. A few decades ago, there were really only two choices for protecting our parents and other older adults in their... read more

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Chapter 1: A Whole New World

The realization comes unexpectedly and suddenly; or it's a gradual awakening that can no longer be ignored. Yesterday you were your mother's daughter, or your father's daughter, as you have been all ... read more

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Chapter 2: You, The Caregiver

It doesn’t seem so long ago that you were the one your parent was taking care of. Now, the roles are becoming reversed—a situation that’s an adjustment not only for you, but also for your parent... read more

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Chapter 3: Plan Early and Look Beyond Today

The senior member or members of your family have acknowledged that because of their age, they need some modification in their lifestyles, small or major, either immediately or in the near future.... read more

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Chapter 4: Aging in Place

The odds are great that your parents will want to stay in the familiar surroundings of their own home and not move anywhere. Still, there are some important barriers to seniors remaining at home.... read more

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Chapter 5: Family Care

Your parents put you at the center of their lives for your first two decades. They hovered over your sickbed, worried about your school grades, and stretched their finances to send you to college.... read more

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Chapter 6: Senior and Adult Care Centers

While your parent is living at home, either his own home or perhaps yours, two excellent types of community centers can provide him or her physical exercise, social interaction, and intellectual ... read more

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Chapter 7: Non-Medical Care at Home

At the point that you'd consider nonmedical care at home, your parent has likely, with some help from you and other family members, created a support structure that has been sufficient for mental and ... read more

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Chapter 8: Medical Care at Home

Even if their daily living skills have declined, your parents can remain in their home safely and happily with professional nonmedical care, as we described in the last chapter.... read more

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Chapter 9: Retirement and Independent Living Communities

Until now we have talked about the care of seniors as they remain in their traditional communities, generally in their own homes, but in some cases in the home of the family caregiver.... read more

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Chapter 10: Assisted Living

A great and relatively recent advance in the support of seniors has been the development of the assisted living facility, or ALF as it is known to professional caregivers.... read more

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Chapter 11: Skilled Nursing Homes

For a reasonably healthy senior, a nursing home still is probably not the right choice. But for the senior who truly needs skilled medical care and intense supervision, it may be exactly the best ... read more

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Chapter 12: Hospice Care

There may come a time in the final stages of your loved one's life that she is ill and no longer responds to medical care, or where medical intervention would cause more suffering than could be ... read more

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Chapter 13: Funeral Services

This final gesture on behalf of the loved one is the act we all dread the most, the ending, the goodbye. And it would be foolish of us to pretend that the funeral is not a ceremony laden with grief ... read more

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Chapter 14: Bereavement

Bereavement is possibly the most trying period you will have to go through in the process of caring. Before your loved one's death, you might have told yourself how relieved you would be when the ... read more

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Chapter 15: Complicating Ailments and Issues

Until now, we have concentrated on progressive stages in the aging process and given your loved one and you, the caregiver, advice about how you should think about each stage and the appropriate ... read more

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Chapter 16: Difficult Situations

While writing this book, we have hoped that through all the challenges of caregiving, you will be working with cooperative relatives; that your parents are not only grateful for your help but ... read more

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Chapter 17: Financing Care

Throughout the book as we have described options available to seniors, the focus has been on helping them find the setting that promotes their well-being, whether that be aging in place or assisted... read more

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Chapter 18: Don't Forget Yourself

We're going to shift focus in this chapter in order to make you, the caregiver, the center of attention. What family support, what professional help, what daily routines and disciplines does the ... read more

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Chapter 19: Planning Your Own Future

Now we turn our attention entirely to you, the caregiver. As you have read this book, you have certainly reflected often on the time when you might no longer be the caregiver but the care recipient.... read more